by Cameryn Moore
I think everyone here knows how I feel about Facebook: I love it. Yes, there are bits that occasionally shit the bed, and I’m still trying to figure out how best to store my content somewhere else in the event that the whole damn site goes commercial in the next year. But, you know, that’s pretty standard stuff. For the most part, I get along in it swimmingly, and as I prep for going to Edinburgh next week (EEEEP!), I’m particularly thankful for one aspect of Facebook:
A good friend of mine mentioned someone, I sent them a friend request, they accepted and I promptly forgot all about them. Except...
I like the comments you’ve been putting on one of my friends’ walls; you seem like an intelligent/funny/sexy person, and I think I’d enjoy reading your updates.
You apparently like the comments I’ve been putting on one of my friends’ walls, and I think you might enjoy reading my stuff.
You popped up in the 'people you might know' section of the Facebook screen, and when I looked and saw that we already share 244 friends, I thought, well, I might not know them yet, but I will eventually, if current trends continue.
I liked something you wrote out in the real world (i.e. not Facebook), and poked around until I found your little Facebook-connect button. Or just typed your name up in the search field.
I’ve just put the call out in my own status update. “Hey! Does anyone know anyone in London/Nashville/Germany?” And then if my existing FB friends recommend that I talk with a particular person, I go for the intro right then, even if I’m not going to be in London for another year, or I’m not sure that I’m ever going to get to Germany. You never know!
Yes, and that’s only one of a boatload of coincidences and collaborations and connections that have had real-life impact after taking shape on Facebook. I’ve helped people get homestay in at least three different cities, and myself have gotten phone-sex-friendly sublets and billets in a half-dozen via friends of friends, and sometimes friends of friends of friends. I’ve found recipes and local sources for props and best coffee houses, last-minute flyering opportunities, and more than a handful of gigs (both paid and unpaid). I’ve found potential venues and introduced friends to one another as potential collaborators. And lord knows I’ve flirted with people via FB and wound up meeting them in one way or another…